“My Husband Has Lost His Passion for Me” - This is How to Bring it Back

July 23, 2021
By Brian D. Ridgway

If you feel your husband has lost his passion for you. And if you feel you became “invisible” in your marriage - you’re not alone. Millions of women worldwide are experiencing this nearly every day. And I’ve worked with tens of thousands of them. 

No more holding hands, no emotional connection, no real sex life. They all share very similar experiences. Yet thanks to the insight I’ll show you in a moment - I’ve been able to help them.

If you feel your husband has lost his passion for you. And if you feel you became “invisible” in your marriage - you’re not alone.

Millions of women worldwide are experiencing this nearly every day. And I’ve worked with tens of thousands of them. 

No more holding hands, no emotional connection, no real sex life. They all share very similar experiences.

Yet thanks to the insight I’ll show you in a moment - I’ve been able to help them.

My Husband Has Lost His Passion for Me

Many women think their husbands have lost passion for them. Yet the issue is much deeper than that - and has very little to do with passion.

Let me start by showing you the real root that causes this situation to happen. Then, I’ll show you how to release it from your life once and for all.

Let me start by showing you the real root that causes this situation to happen.

Then, I’ll show you how to release it from your life once and for all.

“My Husband Has Lost His Passion for Me” - But Why?

I discovered in 2011, that our psychology works on a much deeper level than most of us think. It influences our lives beyond our wildest imagination. And, most of the time, we aren’t even aware of it. 

That’s exactly what happened in my case. 

See, I had, what some would call, a “very terrible start” in life.

I was born into a family of a very angry, ex-military father - and an emotionally unavailable mother.

My father screamed, cursed and beat me nearly every day. And when I went to cry on my mother’s lap, she hugged me - but I felt as if she tried to suck the last bits of love FROM me . . . Instead of sharing it with me.

When I was 17, I ran from my home and never came back. I thought leaving that hell behind would set me free and make my life “normal.” 

Yeah, right.

I discovered in 2011, that our psychology works on a much deeper level than most of us think.

It influences our lives beyond our wildest imagination. And, most of the time, we aren’t even aware of it. 

That’s exactly what happened in my case. 

See, I had, what some would call, a “very terrible start” in life.

I was born into a family of a very angry, ex-military father - and an emotionally unavailable mother.

My father screamed, cursed and beat me nearly every day.

And when I went to cry on my mother’s lap, she hugged me - but I felt as if she tried to suck the last bits of love FROM me . . . Instead of sharing it with me.

When I was 17, I ran from my home and never came back. I thought leaving that hell behind would set me free and make my life “normal.” 

Yeah, right.

How My Unconscious Mind Destroyed My Life - Without Me Even Knowing

For the next 30 years, my adult life was everything but “normal.” (Whatever “normal” means anyway.) 

I had no real friends and people hated me. I hated myself, too. 

The women I dated all thought I was a jerk. Even my own kids didn’t want to talk to me. Most of the time they ignored me.

My days were filled with massive anger, frustration and pain. I was in mental and physical agony. The only thing that worked in my life - at least at the beginning - was my ability to make money. I was an extremely good salesman who generated over $161 million for my clients.

For the next 30 years, my adult life was everything but “normal.” (Whatever “normal” means anyway.) 

I had no real friends and people hated me. I hated myself, too. 

The women I dated all thought I was a jerk. Even my own kids didn’t want to talk to me. Most of the time they ignored me.

My days were filled with massive anger, frustration and pain. I was in mental and physical agony.

The only thing that worked in my life - at least at the beginning - was my ability to make money.

I was an extremely good salesman who generated over $161 million for my clients.

hard childhood

My childhood experiences made my adulthood a nightmare. And I couldn’t find a way to make my life better.

In my early 30s, I made a small fortune. The problem was - soon after that, I made a few fatal business decisions and lost it all. Then I did it again . . . and again . . . and again.

People cheated me. My business partners and clients often went behind my back, used my skills to make crazy amounts of money - and left me with nothing. 

In my early 30s, I made a small fortune. The problem was - soon after that, I made a few fatal business decisions and lost it all.

Then I did it again . . . and again . . . and again.

People cheated me.

My business partners and clients often went behind my back, used my skills to make crazy amounts of money - and left me with nothing. 

I Was Stuck in Limbo

Of course, I was aware my life sucked - and I did all I could to improve it. I’ve read books. I’ve visited therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists. I had mentors and coaches. I even followed religious leaders, asking God for help.

Well - I never received it. All these people helped me to analyze my life. They told me how my childhood experiences influenced my adulthood. They gave me tools and techniques to change my beliefs and attract the life that I wanted.

But it didn’t work for me. I’ve been doing all I could for 30 long years to improve my life - but I couldn’t do it. And I felt even worse.

That leads us to the moment in January 2011, that changed my life. This is when I lost my house in Lexington SC, my Mercedes and all of my money. In a matter of days me, my 6-month pregnant wife and our two little ones were going to land on the street - homeless, hopeless and miserably stuck.

I couldn’t stand it. I was just two steps from walking off the bridge and ending it all - yet the thought of leaving my kids alone had kept me alive.

This near-death event had shaken me so much, it miraculously opened my mind to what I was missing all the time. 

Of course, I was aware my life sucked - and I did all I could to improve it. I’ve read books.

I’ve visited therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists. I had mentors and coaches.

I even followed religious leaders, asking God for help.

Well - I never received it. All these people helped me to analyze my life.

They told me how my childhood experiences influenced my adulthood.

They gave me tools and techniques to change my beliefs and attract the life that I wanted.

But it didn’t work for me. I’ve been doing all I could for 30 long years to improve my life - but I couldn’t do it. And I felt even worse.

That leads us to the moment in January 2011, that changed my life.

This is when I lost my house in Lexington SC, my Mercedes and all of my money.

In a matter of days me, my 6-month pregnant wife and our two little ones were going to land on the street - homeless, hopeless and miserably stuck.

I couldn’t stand it. I was just two steps from walking off the bridge and ending it all - yet the thought of leaving my kids alone had kept me alive.

This near-death event had shaken me so much, it miraculously opened my mind to what I was missing all the time. 

The Insight That Can Transform Your Relationship

In one moment that lasted a few seconds - which to me felt like an eternity - I was reminded of everything I’ve learned in the last 30 years.

I saw all the insights from the books. All the advice from my mentors. All the questions and diagnosis from psychologists and psychiatrists . . .

And it became clear to me there was a hole in all of these discoveries. I saw the missing piece of the puzzle responsible for my suffering that continued despite all my inner work. And suddenly - I knew what it was.

In one moment that lasted a few seconds - which to me felt like an eternity - I was reminded of everything I’ve learned in the last 30 years.

I saw all the insights from the books. All the advice from my mentors.

All the questions and diagnosis from psychologists and psychiatrists . . .

And it became clear to me there was a hole in all of these discoveries.

I saw the missing piece of the puzzle responsible for my suffering that continued despite all my inner work.

And suddenly - I knew what it was.

My Life Changed in 67 Days

The very same day, I unexpectedly landed a well-paid job that saved my family from becoming homeless. 67 days after that, we moved to Hawaii where we live till this very day.

In about 2 months, my entire life changed - for good. Especially my relationships. All of that thanks to the insight I discovered in the most desperate moment of my life.

Since then, I used this discovery to help over 160,361 folks from 84 countries completely reinvent their lives. From an unknown, miserable dude, I became an international speaker who receives calls from billionaires asking me to help them deal with their life-long issues.

And when I wrote a book about my discovery, it became an overnight international bestseller with 324+ five-star reviews.

So, I think I might have something really valuable to share with you. 

Let me show you what I found - because this is the key to making your husband love and cherish you again - or finding the right man for you.

The very same day, I unexpectedly landed a well-paid job that saved my family from becoming homeless.

67 days after that, we moved to Hawaii where we live till this very day.

In about 2 months, my entire life changed - for good. Especially my relationships.

All of that thanks to the insight I discovered in the most desperate moment of my life.

Since then, I used this discovery to help over 160,361 folks from 84 countries completely reinvent their lives.

From an unknown, miserable dude, I became an international speaker who receives calls from billionaires asking me to help them deal with their life-long issues.

And when I wrote a book about my discovery, it became an overnight international bestseller with 324+ five-star reviews.

So, I think I might have something really valuable to share with you. 

Let me show you what I found - because this is the key to making your husband love and cherish you again - or finding the right man for you.

The Spells

Most experts are right when they say our childhood experiences influence our lives. But I found that they don’t go deep enough when it comes to releasing those experiences and becoming free from them.

See, through our childhood, we experienced bigger or smaller traumatic events. We saw our parents argue. We experienced a lack of love. We cried when they screamed at us - and so on.

Most experts are right when they say our childhood experiences influence our lives.

But I found that they don’t go deep enough when it comes to releasing those experiences and becoming free from them.

See, through our childhood, we experienced bigger or smaller traumatic events.

We saw our parents argue. We experienced a lack of love. We cried when they screamed at us - and so on.

parents argue

Most experts are right when they say our childhood shapes our entire life. Yet they don’t go deep enough when it comes to releasing these traumas.

Then, we heard different stories about life in general. About “being lucky.” About money being hard to earn. About us not deserving something.

Then we watched cartoons, read books and listened to music. We talked with our peers. All of these events made us reach thousands of unconscious conclusions - that later shaped our entire belief system.

I call these unconscious conclusions Spells. And it has nothing to do with magic. It just reminds me of characters from fairy tales who were under a dark spell. It harmed them and changed their behavior - often without them knowing.

This perfectly describes the Spells we have in our minds. They control our reactions, emotions, feelings and responses to every situation in our lives. And the majority of people have no idea about it.

We live our lives like robots executing our Spells - our mental programs - and wondering why we never get what we want. In this case, you may be wondering why your husband isn’t caring about you and loving you like he used to.

Well . . . 

Then, we heard different stories about life in general. About “being lucky.”

About money being hard to earn. About us not deserving something.

Then we watched cartoons, read books and listened to music. We talked with our peers.

All of these events made us reach thousands of unconscious conclusions - that later shaped our entire belief system.

I call these unconscious conclusions Spells. And it has nothing to do with magic.

It just reminds me of characters from fairy tales who were under a dark spell.

It harmed them and changed their behavior - often without them knowing.

This perfectly describes the Spells we have in our minds.

They control our reactions, emotions, feelings and responses to every situation in our lives.

And the majority of people have no idea about it.

We live our lives like robots executing our Spells - our mental programs - and wondering why we never get what we want.

In this case, you may be wondering why your husband isn’t caring about you and loving you like he used to.

Well . . . 

The Answer Lies in Your and His Spells

As I mentioned before, Spells control your unconscious reactions, thoughts and emotions. The same applies to your husband. When it comes to communication - whether you accept it or not - you both act like robots. This is the reason why you’re experiencing the lack of attention from your husband.

When your husband triggers your Spells - your unconscious program kicks in - and you react “on autopilot.” You make a comment. You scream. You give him “that look.” Or you don’t say anything and just walk away. Whatever that is - it triggers Spells in your husband.

When this happens, all the frozen emotions and traumas from his childhood become alive. And to protect himself from getting hurt again, he UNCONSCIOUSLY becomes cold and distant. Which you perceive as him losing his passion for you.

And this triggers even more Spells in you - which then triggers even more Spells in your husband. It’s like a chain reaction that builds a bigger and bigger wall between you two.

And if you think this is far out - well, I don’t blame you. But look at this. These days, neuroscientists agree that we make 95% of our decisions UNCONSCIOUSLY. 

Ninety-Five Percent. That’s nearly all of our decisions!

As I mentioned before, Spells control your unconscious reactions, thoughts and emotions. The same applies to your husband.

When it comes to communication - whether you accept it or not - you both act like robots.

This is the reason why you’re experiencing the lack of attention from your husband.

When your husband triggers your Spells - your unconscious program kicks in - and you react “on autopilot.”

You make a comment. You scream. You give him “that look.” Or you don’t say anything and just walk away.

Whatever that is - it triggers Spells in your husband.

When this happens, all the frozen emotions and traumas from his childhood become alive.

And to protect himself from getting hurt again, he UNCONSCIOUSLY becomes cold and distant.

Which you perceive as him losing his passion for you.

And this triggers even more Spells in you - which then triggers even more Spells in your husband.

It’s like a chain reaction that builds a bigger and bigger wall between you two.

And if you think this is far out - well, I don’t blame you. But look at this.

These days, neuroscientists agree that we make 95% of our decisions UNCONSCIOUSLY. 

Ninety-Five Percent. That’s nearly all of our decisions!

robot woman

According to neuroscience, we make 95% of our decisions unconsciously. We live our lives unconsciously, just like robots who execute the program someone gave them.

Well, this begs the question - who’s actually making those decisions?

Is it you? Or, maybe these decisions ARE MADE by your unconscious programs that I call Spells?

So if it’s your Spells really control all those decisions that now make you sad or frustrated . . . Wouldn’t it be great to get rid of your Spells and start living your life more consciously?

Well - it would be. That’s what I experienced in 2011. And that’s what I’ve done for tens of thousands of people ever since.

And I’m happy to show you how to do this right here and now.

Well, this begs the question - who’s actually making those decisions?

Is it you? Or, maybe these decisions ARE MADE by your unconscious programs that I call Spells?

So if it’s your Spells really control all those decisions that now make you sad or frustrated . . .

Wouldn’t it be great to get rid of your Spells and start living your life more consciously?

Well - it would be. That’s what I experienced in 2011. And that’s what I’ve done for tens of thousands of people ever since.

And I’m happy to show you how to do this right here and now.

How to Infuse Love Into Your Marriage Again

Obviously, this will be a basic “how-to” - but if you practice it, you’ll see a tremendous change in your life.

First, start with conscious, abdominal breathing. I show you how to do this here.

Next, for heaven’s sake, stop suppressing your feelings and emotions. If you feel an unwanted emotion - let it be. Don’t get carried away by it - just feel and observe it. This allows you to finally release this feeling instead of locking it inside your mind and body.

More importantly, breathing consciously and observing your feelings can take you to their roots - to the Spells that are the source of this feeling. You may experience this as suddenly remembering some event from your childhood - or having different sensations throughout your body.

When this happens - observe that moment - and continue breathing. Don’t judge. Just observe. And then, flood yourself with love. Flood your inner child with love. Talk to yourself with a loving, soothing voice and assure the child within you that all is well.

Congratulations! You’ve now made a huge step towards healing your relationship and becoming happier than ever before. Because once you dissolve your Spells - your husband won’t be triggered by them.

And the change he’ll see in you will either inspire him to change - or to leave. Both of these are perfect. Both lead to greater happiness and peace.

Your happiness and peace.

Obviously, this will be a basic “how-to” - but if you practice it, you’ll see a tremendous change in your life.

First, start with conscious, abdominal breathing. I show you how to do this here.

Next, for heaven’s sake, stop suppressing your feelings and emotions. If you feel an unwanted emotion - let it be.

Don’t get carried away by it - just feel and observe it.

This allows you to finally release this feeling instead of locking it inside your mind and body.

More importantly, breathing consciously and observing your feelings can take you to their roots - to the Spells that are the source of this feeling.

You may experience this as suddenly remembering some event from your childhood - or having different sensations throughout your body.

When this happens - observe that moment - and continue breathing. Don’t judge. Just observe. And then, flood yourself with love.

Flood your inner child with love. Talk to yourself with a loving, soothing voice and assure the child within you that all is well.

Congratulations! You’ve now made a huge step towards healing your relationship and becoming happier than ever before.

Because once you dissolve your Spells - your husband won’t be triggered by them.

And the change he’ll see in you will either inspire him to change - or to leave.

Both of these are perfect. Both lead to greater happiness and peace.

Your happiness and peace.

How to Change Your Relationship - Even in 12 Days

I dedicated an entire book to the topic of Spells. In it, I show you the key ideas that you have to understand in order to let go of your Spells for good . . . and a simple, 5-minute process that helps you manifest the relationship that you want.

I dedicated an entire book to the topic of Spells.

In it, I show you the key ideas that you have to understand in order to let go of your Spells for good . . . and a simple, 5-minute process that helps you manifest the relationship that you want.

Brian D. Ridgway

About the Author

Brian D. Ridgway "The Spellbreaker". A #1 Bestselling Spiritual Author, a Mentor and a Guide.

His unique guidance has helped over 160,361 people from 84 countries - including tens of thousands of women struggling with their relationships

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